Hey guys. I'd like to start off with an apology like always with the serious delay on commissions, replies to comments and whatnot. First, I had problems with my PC and tablet. Now, my problem is my new job. I mentioned on my last journal that I finally quit my full time warehouse job and that I'd have more time for art stuff because I'd be working part-time for my mom with her homesharing program for a guy with special needs. It turned out to be nothing like we expected
.This is basically what my mom told me:
She would be paying me while I look after the guy while she is at work, since he can't be left alone in the house. She said that it's pretty much like babysitting and that all I have to do is make him food, hang out with him a little and take him out once in awhile. It wasn't supposed to be a difficult job. I was supposed to keep an eye on him and work on art and school stuff at the same time, using my laptop. I ended up working more hours than I did at my full time job. On normal days, I work anywhere from 9-12 hours, 4-5 days a week.
The guy is very respectful and knows how to follow the rules. He's not violent or troublesome. In many ways, he's pretty independent. Unfortunately, he still has trouble with a lot of stuff and I would say his level of intelligence is around 9-12 years of age (he's 23). To be honest, I feel sad for him. He could have turned out to be a normal, independent man. Instead, he's stuck living with my parents because of his disabilities. He looks normal from the outside but you can immediately tell something is wrong when you first talk to him. He has severe ADHD and I believe he's autistic as well with some other disabilities I don't know much about.
His ADHD makes it so that he constantly
needs to be doing something. He wants to constantly talk to me without a break, and wants me to take him out for walks and to the mall, so he doesn't have to stay in the house. When I do take him to the mall, he usually wants me to sit alone in the food court while he walks around and does his shopping...for 1-2 hours. So I pretty much sit there doing nothing (I don't really shop at the mall). I know I gotta be a little more bold and not say "yes" to everything. I'm too soft with him. This is something I really have to get used to, but I've been having a hard time with it because I pity him. I want him to enjoy his life to the fullest without any restrictions so it makes me feel terrible when I say "no".
When he holds conversations with me, he always repeats what he says. He talks about the same topics, every minute, every hour, every day. I'm only human so I get worn out. Taking him out for 30 minute walks after every meal is physically exhausting for me. Constantly talking to him is mentally exhausting for me. So sometimes, I'll tell him to go hang out in his room for a little while (watch TV, read some books...etc) so I can have some alone time and get stuff done. Thankfully, he's more than happy to do that...for about 5 minutes. Then we're back to square one. As I've mentioned, he loves going out for walks. Unfortunately, 30 minute walks after every meal isn't enough for him. He wants to go after every hour. He's allowed to take walks by himself (he has a set route) so I let him go alone when he wants to. The problem? Literally 30-60 seconds
after he walks out the door, he comes back and rings the doorbell to be let in again. He really is a handful.
My mom told me to not spoil him with attention, so sometimes when he comes to talk to me, I stay quiet and pretend I'm doing things on my phone and try to look focused. So instead of talking, he just sits there and stares which makes me feel uncomfortable and makes it hard for me to focus on my work. I was really happy about this job at first because I thought I'd finally get more time with my family (especially my siblings) and have time to work on my tasks at the same time. My siblings and I haven't had much time to talk ever since I moved out. Now they just stay in their rooms because every time we try to talk, he'll come out and interrupt our conversations, so it's pretty much pointless. Nobody has the heart to tell him to stop, because the way he acts isn't his fault.
In a way, I'm very glad he came to live with my mom. His previous caretaker was horribly abusive to him, and of course, his abuse reports didn't do shit
. My man looked it up and apparently, nothing is done for the elderly or for the disabled on 80% of all cases that report abuse. I think that's pretty sad. I feel like nowadays, people care more about animals than human beings, even if some of them are endangered.
Anyway, I just kinda wanted to touch base and share with you guys on what I do, and why I've been so busy. I hope I haven't offended anyone. I wasn't complaining but rather, trying to explain his behaviour and why it keeps me busy. This is my main, current reason of why I haven't been able to get much done lately. I'm still workin on commissions whenever I get the chance, and I apologize once again for the delay. Thanks for reading.